On two different occasions yesterday, my boys teared up when a video game didn’t go their way.
I’ve felt the pain of defeat… and it’s horrible. In a young man’s brain, there are few things as impactful as being bested by another person or another team when you’ve poured your heart & soul into your performance. The cold reality of the scoreboard at the end of the game can be a blast to your ego. So I understand the impulse to cry.
However, I never did. My parents taught me a lot, and one of the things is pride in yourself. If you’ve truly given it everything you’ve got, you have nothing to apologize for. Sportsmanship means accepting defeat with grace, and celebrating your opponent’s triumph. For every heartbreak you’ve experienced on the field, there’s a competitor on the other side whose heart is filled, and this moment is truly theirs. There’s a certain maturity that comes with honoring that moment, and my sons are going to learn that.
My boys have done pretty well on the field, probably owing to the fact that we haven’t started keeping score in any of their sports yet (that begins this year). But on video games, they’re starting to show a bit of emotions in that arena, and I’m gonna have to start doing what my parents did for me… instilling sportsmanship.
~Jake from 98.7 The Bull